THE DE-LAP ZONE: Stress and Stress Management
BY: Carol P. Waldhauser, former Exec.Director, DE-LAP.

Today, Jean is a skilled attorney and a loving mother; but she feels more distressed than ever. As an attorney, Jean is putting her problem-solving skills to use. Jean begins to analyze both her personal and professional life to determine where she could ease the stress in her life and prevent burnout. Sadly, despite Jean's best intentions, her analysis falls short. There is an emergency in the law office, and as usual, Jean addresses the crisis rather than her wellness.

If you ask most lawyers whether they have stress in their life, not only will they say "yes," they will have a whole list of examples. Generally, many have it, and everyone talks about it. It is difficult to go through the day without seeing or hearing the word stresses somewhere or someplace.

Equally as necessary to note is that the law practice is full of stress, anxiety, and worry. Sadly, this is true whether you are a patent attorney or a litigator, a prosecutor or a probate lawyer, whether you practice alone or in a large firm. The legal profession is full of requirements for actual and timely performance. Lawyers carry the burden of their client's problems and their own. Many lawyers find satisfaction in the profession and even grow and thrive, professionally and personally, in the face of these pressures. But many experience mental and physical problems or develop other career-related concerns.

Studies have found that lawyers fall prey at an alarming rate to burnout, job dissatisfaction, depression, chemical dependency, and a host of psychological, behavioral, and physical symptoms related to stress from the practice of law. This is devastating to the lawyers who suffer these effects and the clients whose matters affected lawyers may fail to attend to. Equally as important to realize is the very tools that "promised" more leisure time, that technological conveniences are now thought to be associated with several diseases, including but not limited to coronary heart disease.

Subsequently, for most, there is no quick way to avoid stress. Americans spend more time working than they did in previous decades. Cell phones, telecommuting, e-mail, smartphones have breached the wall between work and leisure time. The rapid pace of technology may appear to make life simpler, but experts agree that the fallout, called techno-stress, will take its toll by increasing demands on both time and money and decreasing personal time.

Principles and Strategies for Stress Management and Wellbeing

Conversely, however, a certain amount of stress in life is desirable. You would not want a life without stress. How boring would that be? Some pressure keeps us motivated and productive. This is often referred to as good stress. Good focus can be one of life's most positive energies when adequately regulated and channeled.

On the other hand, too much stress or stress experienced over a long period of time (distress) without relief can be harmful to our physical, mental health, and spiritual well-being.

Some Physical Symptoms of Stress:

Anxiety or depression and/or unexplained crying
Difficulty concentrating; nervousness; restlessness
Shaking or trembling; dizziness
Heart palpitations; chest pain; headaches; difficulty; breathing; upper and lower back pain; stomach problems;
Sleep problems; chronic fatigue; no energy or stamina;
Lack of interest in sex
Burnout

This type of stress can wear us down, sap our energy, and make us so irritable that no one wants to be around us. It also has physical consequences. Our bodies are not meant to remain under distress.

Your stress symptoms are a response to the stressors in your life.

Fortunately, stress can be managed. And effective stress management programming must address mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being issues. For example:

First, the tools are many that we can put in our stress management toolbox: exercise, get enough sleep, eat right, talk to someone, get out, and take a time out are just a few.

Second, the right attitude means being proactive rather than reactive in dealing with our stress. If there is a significant case ahead, plan for it well in advance. Learn to prioritize by making a list of what you need to do and re-frame items when necessary.

Third, look for whatever helps you to cope with change in a positive way.

And check out our seminars, webinars, and other information to build a coping plan to manage your stress and obtain wellness. Hopefully, you will acquire new tools to develop practical wellness skills that will enable you to successfully handle challenging situations that will affect your professionalism and representation of your clients.

Other fantastic references:

Lawyer Wellness is Not an Oxymoron, Andy Clark

Stress Management for Lawyers: How to Increase Personal and Professional Satisfaction in the Law, Amiram Elwork, PH.D.

If you, or someone you know, is experiencing symptoms of distress, or if you know a lawyer who needs confidential assistance, or if you want additional information on stress management issues, please call DE-LAP at (302) 777-0124 or e-mail mvavala@de-lap.org

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RESOURCES

Feeling Anxious?

DSBA, in partnership with DE-LAP, can help.

In this period of monumental change, both professionally and personally, The Delaware Lawyers Assistance Program (DE-LAP) understands that the legal culture is often resistant in asking for help.

For that reason, the Delaware Lawyers Assistance Program (DE-LAP) together with The Delaware Lawyers Assistance Fund (DELAF) have developed a FREE, CONFIDENTIAL call-in service for Delaware’s legal professionals. This service is a free and confidential way for Delaware Judges, Lawyers and Legal Professionals to discuss your own anxieties with DE-LAP’S CORE TEAM of licensed, health-care professionals during this coronavirus crises and time of upheaval.

If you, or someone you know, needs to just talk – please take advantage of DE-LAP’s new, mental health call-in service to our team of licensed health-care professionals, designed especially for the legal culture.

Call the DE-LAP CORE LICENSED TEAM DIRECTLY, or for more information call DE-LAP’s confidential line (302) 777-0124 .

DE-LAP’S CORE LICENSED TEAM IS:

Dr. Sarah Falgowski, M.D.
Delaware Psychiatry and Wellness
1500 Shallcross Avenue,
Ste 1A-5
Wilmington, DE 19806
Phone: (302) 588-2680
Fax: (302) 202-3239
e-mail: delawarepsychiatry@gmail.com

Rich Lombino, Esq, LCSW
Therapist & Lawyer
Lombino Counseling LLC
1521 Concord Pike, Suite 301
Wilmington, DE 19803
Phone: (302) 273-0700
Fax: (302) 273-0605
e-mail: info@richlombino.com
web: www.richlombino.com

Alice R. O’Brien, MS, NCC, LPCMH
Counseling at Sussex Cottage
4800 Lancaster Pike
WIlmington, DE 19807
Phone: (302) 521-3859
e-mail: aliceob@comcast.net

OTHER DE-LAP RESOURCES:

Tips on how to keep POSITIVE while SHELTERING IN PLACE.

We Do Together What Need Not Be Done Alone!

TBD, Executive Director
The Delaware Lawyers Assistance Program
(DE-LAP)
704 N. King Street, Suite 1100
Wilmington, DE 19801
(302) 777-0124
Cell: (410) 409-8874
www.de-lap.org

DE-LAP is a Confidential, Free, Non-Judgmental Service Just for Delaware Lawyers and Judges

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FREE, CONFIDENTIAL AND NON-JUDGMENTAL, DE-LAP has assisted the Delaware Bar with quality of life and quality of professionalism issues. We Do Together What Need Not Be Done Alone!

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